Quick post today about change as someone at work told me the other day that I shouldn’t worry as nothing ever stays the same …. and you know what? I went through some epiphany moment and realised that it was so very much true! But then it got me thinking that this may be both good and bad at the same time.
Nothing ever stays the same, everything is changing constantly and this occurs on a daily basis. It doesn’t matter if you think about it or not some changes will still take place whether you want it or not. Weather changes, jobs and work situations change due to economical situation and politics, our circumstances change due to financial and health changes. Nature changes the globe everyday, we make different decisions everyday, trends change, people change their opinions, go separate ways and nothing can stop it as change is the inevitable process of existence.
There is nothing wrong with things changing. In fact, life would not be life without movement, dynamism and flow. All living things come into being, grow and develop. But eventually, for everything that ever existed, or will exist in the future, they decline, depreciate and die. This is simply the way things are.
Change and flow
starting point for anyone concerned with change in life. Heraclitus said that life is like a river. The peaks and troughs, pits and swirls, are all are part of the ride. Do as Heraclitus would – go with the flow. Enjoy the ride, as wild as it may be.
Heraclitus was born into a wealthy family, but he renounced his fortune and went to live in the mountains. There, Heraclitus had plenty of opportunity to reflect on the natural world. He observed that nature is in a state of constant flux. ‘Cold things grow hot, the hot cools, the wet dries, the parched moistens’, Heraclitus noted.
Everything is constantly shifting, changing, and becoming something other to what it was before. Heraclitus concluded that nature is change. Like a river, nature flows ever onwards. Even the nature of the flow changes.
Most interpretations of Heraclitus’s river fragment focus on the idea of the river in a state of flux. But Heraclitus says more than this in this fragment: ‘We are and are not’.
The river changes and so do you.
Change and death are ubiquitous features of the natural world. Maybe this is what Heraclitus meant when he said, in his inimitable way:
‘Gods are mortal, humans immortal, living their death, dying their life’.
Reality is change and flow.
Our problem tough is not that things change, or even that we change, or that other people change. Our problem is that we operate from an underlying assumption that they don’t, shouldn’t or won’t. We can’t get our heads around the truth of the matter. And so we act like it’s not happening. We act like things are going to stay as they are. And then when they don’t, we get upset, anxious and depressed.
Our climate is changing although nobody is really committing to one thesis. We overpopulated the planet and carry on producing more and more plastic, yet we see more businesses opening blotting out forests and destroying animals natural habitat. Values change, people become more and more money driven, we have ongoing armed conflicts. Politicians change their opinions from one campaign to another campaign, not caring about their voters and the trust they have shattered. Unfortunately the negative type of changes are occurring in the world to.
Speaking to a few colleagues, it’s ironic how one can feel depressed because we are marooned in our day to day routines and on the other hand we resist the changes that happen to us or around living in denial instead. No matter how big these changes are to us, we somehow make it difficult to adjust anyway.
New challenges can be a learning experience. A new situation can be an opportunity to experiment with formative powers and to work them up in order to draw on them further down the line. There is always a lesson of some kind, where we can draw conclusions and apply them for future situations. The best you can do during any change is to learn from it.
We have got people come in to our lives, bring something with them either enriching our own selves or not so much, in which case we let them go. It may be a sad but a true statement and a natural way of getting to know yourself, other people and deciding who is your circle.
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy. For what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves. We must die to one life before we can enter another. – Anatole France
There is a pervasive feeling of melancholy that accompanies every change. By its nature, change means putting an end to certain things that were maybe important for us. Life demands us to leave behind parts of ourselves in order to be able to welcome new opportunities, improvements or life changing alterations. As such, any transition is both melancholic and frightening, but often necessary if we want to grow and be real with ourselves.
One thing that is for certain is that if things are not so great at the minute, you rest assured they will change. Life has got the capacity to always change for either for worse or for better. The old polish saying says that it’s never as bad so that it couldn’t get even worse…so go with the flow and embrace changes.